Why I support the ‘No More Page 3’ Campaign

page+3When I was a young girl – several thousand years ago – I was heart-clenchingly embarrassed by the newsagent top shelves and their smear of pouting, arching, private female flesh. I’d been taught that sex was a special, intimate thing that was shared by people who loved each other, so the cold public displays of female-only secondary sexual characteristics were a cringing mystery to me.

As children, we are learning machines, and as pubescent children we are fascinated by sex and relationships, so what was I to learn from this first glimpse of the way the world outside home and school treated sex? That ‘sex’ was synonymous with female display, for one thing. The mainstream magazines that were available to the average buyer did not show male display, nor did they show male and female interaction, so I was learning that the consumer of sex was male, and that the female was a product to be consumed.

But I understood this only on an emotional/unconscious level, of course. How it manifested was in embarrassment and a feeling of vulnerability. My child-brain wondered about the images of female nudity in the newsagent and how they seemed to waft sexual responses to female meat into the air around them. When men were looking at those images, I wondered, were they more likely to think about what was under the clothes of the women in the shop? As an awkward young girl, still coming to terms with (and feeling a little horrified by) ‘developing’ as a woman, it made me feel as if I was as much on display as those women who had chosen to be photographed. It made me feel exposed. It also made me feel as though I didn’t have full ownership over my own body. This may be difficult to understand if you’ve never been a trainee human in this situation, but it’s how I felt, and since I’ve been an adult, I’ve met other women and girls who also felt the same way.

I’m not, of course, saying that adolescent embarrassment is a reason why Page 3 should be finally and peacefully euthanized. But I do think it should be, and the reason for this is that it – along with other freely available mainstream ‘pornographic’ imagery – actually limits and restricts human sexuality. I know this seems counter-intuitive, and most pro-page 3 people argue that removing it from The Sun is a ‘feminist’ plot to repress straight men’s natural sexuality. They also argue that porn is an expression of sexual freedom, and in some ways I think they probably have a point. When porn is something that adult people seek out to suit the tastes they have developed individually, I can’t see it as a problem. But I think that mainstream, see-it-everywhere soft porn is quite the reverse of liberating because it squishes the vastness of human sexual expression into a tiny box of what is possible and causes insecurities that limit people’s sexual confidence. We unconsciously learn from it that to be a sexual being you must be of a certain age, size, skin colour and shape and present yourself in a certain way. Anybody who isn’t or doesn’t is some kind of asexual freak. Pubic hair, for example, now only features in niche pornography because it’s seen as a fetish.

Anyone who says porn doesn’t have any effect on our attitudes, feelings or behaviour must also believe that advertising is a complete waste of money. All media affects us. It must do, otherwise there’s no point in it. Huge industries spend millions on it and it can’t all be a mistake. Jehovah’s Witnesses have developed a printing empire based on the fact that if you keep people reading material with the same underlying messages, then they will keep believing it’s reality. If we keep absorbing repetitive underlying messages in our sexual material then we will keep believing that they represent real sexuality. In fact they’re even more powerful than religious indoctrination since they carry a sexual charge that seems to validate them as ‘truth’.

The essence of why I think Page 3 should go and that soft pornographic material shouldn’t be displayed where it can be seen unintentionally is to do with the way I think we learn our sexualities. Freud (who I often disagree with, of course, but I found this idea interesting) argued that humans are born what he called “polymorphously perverse.” What he means by this is that we are born capable of experiencing sexual responses and feelings, but that these are unfocused on any particular stimuli during childhood.

In order to explain fetishes, Freud argued that our experiences as we grow into fully developed sexual beings lead some people to attach sexual feelings to unexpected objects, like shoes or bannisters or the Eiffel Tower. But those of us who have more usual sexual experiences and input learn to attach our sexual feelings to more mundane things like other people. And we learn our preferences from the things that stir our sexual feelings in our early stages of development. That’s why some people find beards attractive and others hate them, some people like blondes and others don’t, some people like foot massages and others don’t, and so on. We’re learning from everything around us including the representations of sexuality we encounter in the media. In fact, in our much-vaunted media-saturated society, we probably now learn much more about notions of sexuality from the media than we do from anywhere else, especially when we are young.

There’s nothing intrinsically wrong with this, until we examine whether the messages about sex we are learning from our media are a real representation of free human sexuality, or whether they depict only one version of what sexuality is all about. Many claim that non-mainstream porn exists specifically to depict the entire cornucopia of human sexuality, and is thereby liberating, and that may well be true. For the sake of this discussion, however, I am looking only at mainstream, freely available soft porn such as Page 3 and lad’s mags, because it’s those that we are most frequently confronted with and therefore those that will have the biggest impact on our learning about sexuality. What these media seem to be teaching our young people is that no human is sexually desirable unless they are preened and pumped and smooth and flawless and firm and their sexual doings are as perfectly performed as the edited cavortings of the stars of an MTV music video. Media representations of sex seem to encourage people to see it as all about performance – how they look – rather than how they feel. I don’t see any real signs that the sexual expectations on young people are making them any more liberated than former generations who were, at least, free to have sex (or not) in their own actual skins. They were not led to believe they had to mould themselves into some sort of impossibly perfect (and expensive to maintain) ideal before they got their kit off.

So, the reason I would like Page 3 out of the papers along with the removal of soft porn from the newsagent shelves is because I feel it is part of a culture that is just as repressive about sex as it was in earlier times. Instead of hiding sex altogether as earlier generations perhaps tried to do, we now put it on display everywhere – but we put such a sanitised, tacky, shallow, prescriptive version of it on display that it confines and limits young people’s ideas of what sex is.

I don’t want to ban porn at all, I just want it to be something people have to seek out rather than something that appears in front of our eyes whether we want it to or not. I want our children to learn about sex mainly from talking openly about it and experiencing relationships with other young people with real, lovely, imperfect, varied bodies and minds. I want them to understand that sex is fantastic and intimate and all about sharing your actual real self with another person (or people if that’s your thing), not about putting on a performance of an ideal imposed from outside. I want them to grow up knowing that sex is about feelings and not about how you look when you’re doing it. I don’t want our daughters to grow up feeling that the ultimate accolade is to look good naked so that men they would never want anywhere near them will drool over them. If our young people want to look at porn, it’s fine, but the act of having to go and find it in and of itself would show them that it is something different from everyday human sexual experience. Not wrong, just different. Doing this would hopefully lessen the influence of mainstream soft pornification on people’s individual sexualities and create more not less freedom of sexual expression.


8 replies to “Why I support the ‘No More Page 3’ Campaign

  1. Well stated, as always. I also support the campaign (by the heroic action of signing an e-petition), even though it is superficially at odds with what I believe. I mean, I do believe we ought to be less prudish, less afraid, that exposed flesh should be essentially normal and not provoke titillation or simply tittering; it makes sense that the bodies we all have should be viewed without fear. In fact, there should be more nudity in general — men, women, mature, un-toned, the whole lot. The cloistered hangover we still harbour about bodies could be binned, happily. The sense that sex is “naughty,” (tee-hee, aren’t we daring), might be dropped without upset. That is, assuming we could somehow leapfrog into an enlightened world where no one was self-conscious or judgemental anymore and the human form was seen to be as natural as that of gold-fish or poplars or chips.

    So, to call for breasts to be buried does seem to run counter to what would be ideal, yet we are so far from the ideal, aren’t we? So far in some other direction entirely.

    And while bodies are portioned up and set up to be graded and fawned over — and let us not forget that by “bodies” we mean actual people — and while others are excluded or humiliated in the process, and so long as the goal is anything but the acceptance and familiarity with normal human simply being, I shall support the tucking away of particular tits from general view.

    1. Perfect. Yes. Exactly that. It’s not breasts per se that are the issue, or the fact that people find them attractive. It’s the particular way sex is represented in popular media and how it affects its consumers. I honestly believe the mainstream-pornifying of culture subtly causes at least as many sexual hang-ups as the so-called repressive society of the early twentieth century. It just does so in a completely different way.

  2. I like this blog post. I too grew up around pg3 and saw my Dad looking at it when I was 5. I was very confused by it. In a split second lots of thoughts went through my mind, I could not understand why my Dad was looking at her and not my Mum, I realized that I had to look like the women in the picture to get attention from men, including my Dad which was confusing, I also became aroused by the images and was sexually confused. I think if I had been exposed to male nudity first I don’t think that confusion would have happened and I’m totally against soft porn because of this. If there was more balance and pictures of men in the nude (with penises exposed) I think it would benefit young girls, there would be less focus on their own bodies, less self esteem issues when they got older and became women which actually benefits men also. Imagine if your girlfriend were not as shy or focused on what they looked like? Sex would be a lot better! Nudity isn’t bad. What’s wrong is having one form of nudity available. Slender young white women. No men, no older men, older women, fat men, fat women and the range of body shapes/colours there are in between. That would be much more liberating. Also linking nudity with sex is not liberating, it is confining. I am not keen on pornography either, it has detrimental effects on men, namely erectile dysfunction as well as the issues it can cause in relationships – whereas I don’t think it should be banned but definitely these detrimental effects should be talked about a lot more – plus its just not realistic, and since it has the ability to ‘programme’ people I think it should be strictly regulated. And the detrimental effects it can have on the actors and actresses themselves, well that’s a whole other issue!

    1. I can’t imagine how it must have been to see your dad doing that. I found the whole thing made me feel insecure, but the fact that my dad didn’t do it meant I at least knew it was only some, not all men. This stuff definitely has an effect on how girls feel about themselves and it definitely inhibits their natural sexual response because they feel inadequate a lot of the time. Your comment, “Imagine if your girlfriend were not as shy or focused on what they looked like” hits the nail on the head!

    1. Page 3 was originally spawned in the era of Benny Hill and his awful lecherous ‘entertainment’ programme, and of all those celebrities who have since been exposed as partial to behaving inappropriately to underage fans. It needs to die a death.

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